Today, when talking with family, hear them out before replying
Translated from the Chinese original by the AI Guanyin Volunteer. Scripture and Yijing text in 「」 is kept in the original Classical Chinese.
Second Seeking (二求)「設欲求女，便生端正有相之女」〈普門品〉 (Universal Gate Chapter)
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Today is Saturday. Many people finally have time to be in the same room with family, sitting together, yet not necessarily talking well. On days like this, words are often taken over or corrected halfway, or everyone looks down at their phones. On the matter of family and relatives, today's reminder is to hold one attitude: do not rush to finish or settle things. When the other person speaks, listen to the end before responding. Most unpleasantness between family members is not about big matters, but about words that were not heard through. Doing just this one small thing today is enough; there is no need to repair a whole relationship, or to settle at once things that have piled up for a long time.
Today's observation
Today's hexagram is Heaven and Thunder, Wu Wang (天雷无妄). The judgment says 「元亨。利貞。其匪正有眚，不利有攸往」. This hexagram speaks of not acting rashly or moving recklessly, but doing things according to how they naturally are. Seen within a family, a common situation is this: people gather on the weekend, and someone takes the chance to discuss things, make requests, or bring up old grievances. Once the words are out, it turns into “I must make you see that I am right.”
The resulting hexagram is Fire over Water, Wei Ji (火水未濟). Its judgment includes 「小狐汔濟，濡其尾，无攸利」. The little fox is almost across the river but wets its tail, and the matter falters at the last step. This also happens between family members: most of the words have been said, then the last sentence comes out in a heavy tone, and the earlier effort is wasted.
Today is the 22nd of the 9th lunar month, only a few days before month's end. With the weekend and month-end together, many people have much on their hands and feel somewhat rushed. Back home, their words grow short and their patience thin. At such times, even ordinary words from family can sound like criticism.
Several feelings are common: too tired to explain; afraid of being misunderstood, so rebutting first; caring deeply about the other person yet speaking harshly. These are all ordinary states, and there is no need to blame yourself. What is asked today is only one small action: when the other person has not finished speaking, do not reply yet. After they finish, speak if you still want to. If the topic is too big or cannot be settled today, leave it for later; there is no need to deal with it today.
What the scriptures say
若為一切善和眷屬者。當於胡瓶手。千手千眼觀世音菩薩廣大圓滿無礙大悲心陀羅尼經（原文 19） (Great Compassion Dharani Sutra of the Thousand-Handed, Thousand-Eyed Guanyin Bodhisattva, original text 19)
- This line speaks of harmony among 「眷屬」, the relatives, that is, the people closest to you. The scripture treats getting along with family as something worth taking seriously, not as a background taken for granted.
- The word the scripture uses is 「善和」, and the emphasis is on harmony (和). Harmony does not mean having no differing views, but that after views are spoken, people can still go on living together. Today's reminder fits this: listening to the end is so that, after the words have been spoken, the relationship remains.
- This hand corresponds to “family support” and “relationship repair”. This is a modern extension by this site, not the original meaning of the scripture. It means that support is not always doing something big; sometimes it is only letting the other person finish speaking.
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